Not my forum, or my back yard, so l'll tread real careful

. l'll treat this as two parts.
What was said here was in impartial reality little better than what was said over there....and l posted that over there as well, to define that a little better l'm talking about the back and forth when it kicked off, not the source or root issues, just the general 'airing' of peoples views.
When the Alphasim forums were first opened l was moderator numero uno, l twisted Phils arm a long time to get the forums as doing our business on other sites wasnt good cricket. Back then it was forbidden, or just considered bad sport to mouth off other forums, payware or freeware concerns, you just turned the other cheek and got on with it. Like the recent CBFS spat there were spats before, l will say this though, most was bourne out by the fans of each club and rarely by the site staff themselves, bit like football hooligism really.
One thing l did learn very quickly is that people will have there voice, you cannot supress it, if you do it will pop up elsewhere and usually much nastier and bite you harder, threads must be allowed to run there course, no matter how unpallettable that looked or read, then when things calmed down they were locked and eventually deleted a week later.
I did think Gerrys locking of the recent one was perhaps a little too soon, lots of people had lots to say, and on hind sight it appears l was right ( and that gives me no comfort what so ever ), as we now have another thread going the same way...because not all the people have said all they want to.
As moderators it is very hard to know what to do and how far to let it run, you can either say, nope, nil, zippo and lock it after the 2nd or third post and lock it down, or you can let it run and run the risk of critism by the other parties, or run the risk of the other parties doing the exact same in return and then theres a big war of words.
Every person who posted here and there is to blame for the situation ( yes even I was and l readily admit it ), dont sit back and scoff and say l wasnt to blame, you were, if you hadnt posted then there would be nothing to read and thus no problem ( be assured l'm talking about the spat, not the price, or quality control or sales, just the spat ).
There have been outbursts from people that should really have been left on the cutting room floor, l've done it in the past...though its never been towards another developer, free or pay and l'm sure we all have to some degree as well. Outbursts are not a good sign, rather than hammer them for doing so it might be a good idea to turn that back on its self and ask yourself why someone would do that, I lost my mother earlier in the year and tried hard not to let it affect my forum persona, most people probably saw right through it...but had the good grace to give me a wide berth

, we're all human and generaly we dont want to upset people if we can help it.
So chaps, critism is fine, comments are fine, but remember others may not read what you wrote in the style you ment and thus some replies that come back may not be what you expected, and l fully expect that from the above but l feel that the clientel here can sort the wheat from the chaff and see what is really what.
Thank you for reading my views on the situation.
Kindest
Michael